With flowers, survivors express their appreciation and love or their friendship to the deceased person at a funeral service and at the grave. Flowers serve as an aid in saying goodbye and are the last greeting to her.
The lovingly cared for a grave, decorated with flowers, reflects the mourners' attachment to the deceased.
In small bouquets or also as single blossoms grave flowers are usually thrown into the open grave, while wreaths and flower arrangements are grouped on the urn grave or around the coffin.
Which flower type and the colour is appropriate for a funeral also depends on what one wants to express with it.
Which flower is appropriate for the funeral?
Almost every flower has a certain symbolism, especially when it comes to a funeral. Regardless of whether you choose wreaths, flower arrangements or a bouquet.
When choosing flowers, it is the personal feeling that counts most. Because there are no clear rules for the selection of flowers.
Preferences of the deceased are a good clue and should be taken into account when choosing a bouquet. The bouquet should also express what one would like to say to this person.
Of course, there are flowers that are particularly suitable for such special mourning occasions.
Classic is roses, lilies and Callas among the mourning flowers. Often gerberas, violets, forget-me-nots, carnations, tulips, chrysanthemums and orchids are used. Green and climbing plants such as ivy, willow or yew are also very popular.
With which flowers can one not do anything wrong at a funeral?
White or cream flowers are harmless. They can be taken to a funeral without hesitation. If possible, they should underline the personality of the deceased.
Flowers at a funeral are an expression of respect, affection and esteem and can be a comforting element for the bereaved. Sometimes, therefore, the mourning notice contains information about the floral decorations that can be used as a guide.
What do I do if no flowers are desired for the funeral?
The wish of the deceased, who during his lifetime expressed to do without bouquets at the funeral, should be respected. Sometimes relatives also express this request.
They should respect these wishes and if necessary do without large wreaths or lavish flower arrangements. In order not to be left empty-handed, individual flowers or a small bouquet are also appropriate. This can be laid down at the grave to say goodbye.
What symbolism do the different types of flowers have?
A flower is an aid to coping with grief. It can comfort you when you have lost a loved one and accompany them on their last journey.
But what do the different types of flowers mean?
Roses are a symbol of beauty and perfection. They can mean love and devotion, and with the dark varieties, they can also mean despair. Light roses, on the other hand, express restraint, tenderness and purity.
The colour is also decisive here. Combined with gypsophila, bouquets of roses are often particularly expressive at funerals.
Lily (lily lilium) bouquets
The lilies, especially white lilies, stand for innocence, purity of love and heart, connectedness, hope but also for grief, death, grace and forgiveness. It is a symbol of light and Christianity. But beware: yellow lilies stand for pomp and vanity.
White Calla bouquets
The meaning of Calla refers to immortality, resurrection, transience, devotion, purity, beauty and elegance. In a bouquet of mourning, it is particularly expressive. The Calla is one of the classics among the mourning flowers and is often chosen for bouquets but also in combination with wreaths and arrangements.
White and orange Gerbera are most suitable. With their intense colours and long shelf life, they have become a firm fixture in mourning floristry.
But it stands for intimate friendship, warmth, vitality and light.
Chrysanthemums in mourning floristry stand for durability and sincerity. And because they last long also for long life. They should show eternal fidelity to the deceased, far beyond death.
Carnations (dianthus) bouquets
Carnations have a long shelf life and can be combined very well with other flowers.
They are a symbol of immortality and life after death. And they stand for loyalty, friendship, generosity and love.
Cut orchids in a funeral bouquet or burial flower arrangement should express great admiration, respect and thanks to the deceased. They appear noble. According to their biodiversity and adaptability, they can symbolize a strong will to survive.
At funerals, blue violets are mainly used. They have a deeper meaning and symbolize patience, modesty, secrecy and innocence. The violet is delicate, discreet and rather reserved.
Forget Me Not bouquets
The forget-me-not carries its symbolism already in the name. Don't forget mine: I will not forget you one wants to tell the deceased. It stands for farewell, loyalty and togetherness. For funeral bouquets, blue forget-me-not is often used.
Beauty and transience but also affection and love carry tulips in themselves. Nowadays they are also used as funeral flowers.
Sunflowers (helianthus annuus) bouquets
With their radiance sunflowers have a strong symbolism. They stole warmth, happiness, freedom and good wishes. As traditional symbols for harvest, growth and development, they are also very suitable as grave bouquets or coffin decorations.
Flower colours and their meaning
The flower colours also have something to mean. They can influence the mood at a funeral, but must not increase the sadness of the relatives. Very colourful funeral bouquets are rather rare, unless the deceased loved them or expressly requested them during his lifetime.
White is one of the most elegant and most frequently used colours for such occasions. It stands for purity, innocence and restraint and expresses positive feelings such as consolation, confidence, hope and love for the deceased.
Red is undoubtedly an unmistakable sign of intimate affection and love. The darker and more intense the red, the stronger the passion and affection. The colour red stands for energy, determination, but sometimes also for despair.
The colour pink belongs to the same colour family as red, but stands for gentler feelings such as restraint and tenderness as well as for a romantic atmosphere, but is not intrusive at all. It also symbolizes beauty.
Flowers in the colour of water promise mysterious romance, permanence and fidelity, while light blue tones provide freshness and signal freedom. Blue violets are very popular at funerals.
A bouquet of violet flowers embodies individuality, dignity and tactful cordiality. Among the flowers used at funerals, they are something very special because they often embody something spiritual and mystical.
Flowers in bright yellow symbolize joie de vivre and carelessness as well as the warmth and energy of the sun. They are not so common in mourning bouquets or flower arrangements. This may also be due to the fact that yellow flowers, especially yellow roses, indicate a waning feeling.
Lots of fresh green in the form of rich green leaves, ivy or mimosa, stand for naturalness and popularly for liveliness, hope, strength and a new beginning. Evergreen shrubs and small trees as grave ornaments, such as the yew, also stand for immortality.
should express positive feelings towards the deceased. Dark tones mean above all passion, love but also despair.